Usually the main excuse that abusers use is:

“I AM TRYING TO PROTECT YOU” it’s for our own good.

The original writer of this article undertook research on the definition of Domestic Abuse, according to the Law in their location.

The following details are taken as additional controlling thoughts and behaviours that are normally listed as domestic violence:

•preventing contact with family and/or friends,

•denying, withholding, controlling or misusing money or property, or threatening to do so

•threatening behaviour—saying things or acting in a way to make someone feel afraid,

•forcing, intimidating or manipulating a person to do things they don’t want to do

•depriving a person of the person’s liberty or threatening to do so;

•unauthorised surveillance of a person;

•unlawfully stalking a person.

•A person who counsels or procures someone else to engage in behaviour that, if engaged in by the person, would be domestic violence is taken to have committed domestic violence.

•To remove any doubt, it is declared that, for behaviour mentioned in subsection (2) that may constitute a criminal offence, a court may make an order under this Act on the basis that the behaviour is domestic violence even if the behaviour is not proved beyond a reasonable doubt.

•Coerce, a person, means compel or force a person to do, or refrain from doing, something.

•Unauthorised surveillance, of a person, means the unreasonable monitoring or tracking of the person’s movements, activities or interpersonal associations without the person’s consent, including, for example, by using technology.

Examples of surveillance by using technology:

Reading a person’s SMS messages

Monitoring a person’s email account or internet browser history

Monitoring a person’s account with a social networking internet site

Using a GPS device to track a person’s movements

Checking the recorded history in a person’s GPS device

Preventing a person from making or keeping connections with the person’s family, friends or culture, including cultural or spiritual ceremonies or practices, or preventing the person from expressing the person’s cultural identity

Economic abuse means behaviour by a person (the first person) that is coercive, deceptive or unreasonably controls another person (the second person), without the second person’s consent—

In a way that denies the second person the economic or financial autonomy the second person would have had but for that behaviour;

Preventing the family member from making or keeping connections with his or her family, friends or culture; or

•Unlawfully depriving the family member, or any member of the family member’s family, of his or her liberty.

•Prevent a person from spending time with family and friends, and participating in social activities. By isolating them from their support networks, the perpetrator is attempting to assert power and control.

So….

What is the difference between what an abusive partner does, and what the government is doing?